Reflection and Perception
What do you see when you look at your reflection? Chances are you see something different than others. Often we are hardest on ourselves, others see beauty whilst we focus on the small things that don’t quite fit right, that don’t look the way we want them or the way they used to.
I meet so many parents who also feel the same way, they focusing on the small things that they don’t do as a parent or even the small things that their child isn’t doing whilst others see all that they are doing so well. I hear parents saying over and over perhaps it’s my fault I did something so my child isn’t doing whatever it is.
Life is all about perception but the most important perception is of ourselves, how we see ourselves as parents. The truth is there is no such thing as perfect parenting or perfect children. I often find when parents accept that it starts the beginning of a massive shift for them. Every child, parent and family are unique and so with that means that what works for one family will not work for another.
Parenting is a journey of discovery it’s about celebrating the mountain tops and holding together through the valleys but most importantly realising the valleys are a time for learning more about your children, learning more about their needs, learning more about yourself as a parent and growth in character for your child and you as a parent.
I challenge you to take some time today to focus on all the things you love about yourself firstly and those little things that niggle you will start to dissolve, that image reflecting back at you will start to resemble your true identity.
When you worked on your own image start with your parenting, focus on all the things you are doing already, everything your child can do and all the little bits of doubt will start to fade.
When we see ourselves in the image in which we were created both for ourselves and as parents our perspective will shift of not only ourselves but our parenting and relationships with others and most importantly our relationships with our children.
Love binds families together but we must start loving ourselves fully for that to flow throughout our family through our children and into the world.